There comes a time in everyone’s life when all that we crave
for is love. It can be either just after a break up or when one is not being
loved truly by anyone still. This feeling makes us restless. You chum up with
everyone you meet on the way. Expectations are at their pinnacle. You care for
every single person you meet, you try to make them your best friends sharing
your personal life but in reality you also want that person to do the same
(yes, that’s expectation again). This is the time when you are always
surrounded by a risk of settling for someone less deserving just because of restlessness
of being in a relationship. No, here I am not talking about only love, it could
only be for sympathy or may be because you also want attention, and there is
nothing wrong in that. It’s in our nature that we all need attention from
people around us. And this is the only reason why most of the social networking
sites are so popular. We all are living a happy life in all terms. Some have
good family life, some are financially strong, some have charismatic looks and
some have it all but still only one thing is absent – that is love, that
special person who will love us back in the same way we love them. Love in both
ways doesn't allow us to be happy in life. I've seen people getting enough love
but not satisfied just because their expectation levels are way too high and
there are some who receives nothing. Someone has rightly said, “It always feels
good when we are at receiving side.”
So, what is the conclusion of all this? Can we ever get over
these expectations? Or this so called feeling of being loved in return? Are
there people like us who feel the same for us? Is there anyone who craves to
talk to me the same way I crave to talk with others? Why do we crib always
about being lonely and not having friends? Why can’t we just happy with ourselves?
The answer is simple – chuck all the expectations and try to seize this moment.
Don’t be restless to talk or even take a mobile number when a new person enters
in your life. Let them reveal themselves. Give it time. Trust can never be
gained, it’s won. And all you need for that is patience. Trying to know more
and more in such a little amount of time will end up making you lonelier. The
key is to be happy (yes without showing them that you want them so badly). The
day you learn to control your sentiments and your emotions is the day you
actually start living a happy life and trust me there is no particular age to
make this happen. You can start it now, at this very moment. Loving yourself
the way you are is always easier than changing yourself into someone else so
that they love you. In the end all we do is comfort our hearts. I believe love
will happen one day or it will not happen at all. Decide to enjoy loneliness
and you will never feel lonely again in your own company. Go for a movie alone.
Do shopping. Take a ride on a new way. Do sky diving. Earn and spend it on
yourself. You know what? You will eventually end up making friends in the
course of all these activities. That’s how life is. It’s a beautiful struggle. Effortless
relationships are always more interesting than the forceful one’s. Your efforts
may impress someone and bring them in your arms but one day all would look fake.
If you’re the way you are, you will always attract more people. I’d rather say
more correct people.
The only reason behind this article is to motivate myself.
If I won’t, who else will?
Hope it helps you too. Cheers to loneliness, Cheers to life.
:)
